My husband is an alcholic. We have been battling this disease for pretty much our whole relationship. It has been hell. I believed all the promises because I truely felt he was sincere…and I wanted to believe them.
He pretty much hit rock bottom a few weeks ago and went into an inpatient rehab. He''s been home for a couple of weeks and is doing fantastic. He hasn''t had anything to drink in a month. He has been doing everything right and is back to the man I fell in love with. Great husband and wonderful father to our toddler.
Here''s the problem…I think I have put a wall up as a defense mechanism for all the pain he put me through with his drinking and can''t seem to break it down. I dont feel the same way about him as I used to. I dont know if this will just take time or what but it really scares me that our marriage will end. I am in therapy and talk about this in great detail but it''s not helping so far. What''s worse is there is another man who has been interested in me for a while who (during all this) informed me of his feelings. I havent cheated on my husband physically but I feel that I am drawn to this other man emotionally.
I dont want to end my marriage and break up my family. In an ideal world we would move on from the past and become the happy family we were meant to be. I just dont know how to make my heart catch up to my head.
Any thoughts, advice, insight….?
I can see how this could be a difficult situation for you. However, now that your husband is healthy and well again, I think that since you feel so strongly for your family, that divorce will make things worse. If you think about it, you stayed with your husband during his alcoholism and treatment and now he is doing great! I think you underestimate how much you love him. Stick with it!